I'm posting my response to the idea started by Andes Cruz, who I met online while doing "Ring-A-Week" in 2011 and then became friends with on facebook. She's a very talented and knowledgeable metalsmith whose work and style I admire and she started the Blog-O-Sphere Think Tank, a group of online friends who blog. We're all going to write about the same topic on the 20th of each month. I hope you visit the other bloggers posting their answer to this month's topic too. Each month the bloggers may change along with the topic but I think that will be very interesting to see what other people think . . . one of my other favorite subjects.
a swatch of fabric that I'm using to symbolize people in the world
So here goes:
In my opinion, it's as the Buddha says "there is only now". The essence of living in the present moment, the Now, is focusing the mind here and take attention away from thinking about past or future. The present moment is all there ever is to experience life directly. Past and future are only concepts of our mind and therefore are good for learning from the past or conceptual planning when it is useful, but after this there is no need for them.
I do think that our thoughts today affect how our life will be tomorrow and the way we are living today came about by thinking the thoughts and wanting what we wanted in the past and now here we are enjoying those things . . . or not.
As a young girl I used to think "fate" was finding the partner you were meant to be with for the rest of your life but as I matured I realized that fate was more like a romantic word for getting exactly what you wanted. People often live their lives as if they aren't getting what they want.
That's right, people don't get what they say they want. I think there are a few reasons for that.
1. They don't really want the thing they say they want because even if the situation or thing is right in front of their very nose, they refuse to take it and may even find fault with it when they get it saying "that's not it".
2. They're laboring and working so hard at not believing that they could ever have that which they really want and limit themselves in the attainment by being sure that it "will never happen".
what the world kind of looks like, uh, from the sky
We're people constantly changing our minds based on what's in front of us and how we think we "should" live. We're always being told what a good person is and does and so most of us are shifting and adapting to life as it changes around us. How could something you want as a young person, given the speed of change we find ourselves in, be the same thing we want as a 40 year old adult?
Fate in my opinion is just getting something you really wanted and still want, perhaps after some time.
I think life is plenty random. I think there are more accidental occurrences than we even dare to identify and it's scary to think that all this activity has almost no meaning whatsoever. So one day some writer, some young girl and some movie maker, not to mention millions of housewives from the 20's, the 30's, the 40's, 50's, and certainly the 60's, wished that the wish came true and THEN they could truly be happy.
What a crock of shit! It's all hype and hyperbole people. Your life is your creation and you make the beautiful thing that it is.
I see flowers . . . doesn't everyone?
No, I don't believe in fate. The world doesn't owe you anything but it makes available everything, kind of like a big tray of chocolates. You can pick the ones you want but then if you decide you don't like the flavor, don't go saying you didn't pick it or that it isn't meant for you.
I believe in discipline and respect.
Discipline comes in handy when what you picked doesn't turn out the way you imagined. Discipline is what you need to have, to deal with and get through that experience. It's the quality that when you're clear headed, gets you to feeling happy no matter what your circumstances, knowing that you had a hand in creating them and that it can pass and things can be good again because NOTHING IS PERMANENT. Discipline comes in handy when instead of being angry and defensive, you can trust that this is what you got and life will be good again.
Respect in this situation means a few things too. First respecting the laws of the physical world . . . I think you really need to move in the direction of what you want because what you want may never ring your doorbell but it just may be out there in the street so you may as well go looking for it and not just wait around for it to perhaps find you. And then, respect what shows up in your life. It may not be what you thought you wanted but it's what has shown up and it's too late to pretend you didn't have anything to do with it. You're more powerful and capable than you know.
I think the best thing a person could do is spend some time alone and think about these things . . . some people meditate, some contemplate. Get to know yourself in the quiet calm of your own mind. Ask yourself "if this happened, what would I do?", "If I had to choose, what would it be?", "What's the most fun thing I can think of to do?" And admit to yourself when there's something you want but you're really not willing to do what it takes to have it. That doesn't make you a wrong person. You just met your wall.
Maybe you haven't conceived of the idea yet that will make your heart sing. Maybe all you need to do is uncross your wires and be honest with yourself.
Fate? Nah. Imagining, planning, trusting and happily being patient while also being open to the things you want? Wholeheartedly yes! Hold the things you want like a jewel in your heart. Then forget about when it's owed to you. Be happy, be patient, RELAX. You don't have to rationalize it. It will come. I know this now.
What do you want in your life? Tell me!
Here are links to the other artists talking about this topic: